Japan

Japan ~~~~~

New ~~~~

New job ~~~ new start !!!!!

Pain

Little silver run too fast ;(

时间

很久很久没有写字了。。

我被懒惰打败了。。。。

时间让我习惯没有意义的生活。。。

Happiness

Contrary to popular belief, happiness isn’t something that just happens. You have to work on being happy. To help you with that, here are 42 happiness tips and snidbits:

1. Just be yourself.

2. Realize that you’re fighting against a world of your own creation.

3. Know that your happiness is independent of how much stuff you own.

4. Change yourself instead of expecting the world to change to meet your expectations.

5. Define happiness as peace, tranquility, and serenity.

6. Remember there’s no such thing as the perfect life.

7. Your happiness is equal to your ability to love.

8. Stop thinking of what you don’t want.

9. Just for today, pretend that you have amnesia about anything that stresses or worries you.

10. Truly believe that everything you go through has a higher purpose.

11. Don’t turn small problems into big ones.

12. Stop comparing yourself to others.

13. Remember that envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.

14. Set limits with people who drain your energy.

15. Surround yourself with positive, mood-elevating people.

16. Nothing has to happen outside of yourself for you to be happy.

17. When you change your thoughts you literally rewire your brain; start rewiring your brain for happiness.

18. Be very careful of where you choose to place your attention.

19. Don’t criticize anyone—including yourself—for 24 hours.

20. Try turning the stories that you tell yourself about what happens in your life into comedies instead of dramas.

21. Make a list of the things you need in order to be truly happy; make it a really short list. (Here’s an example: Having good health, sufficient money for food and shelter, no debts, loving friends and family, and something meaningful to work toward).

22. Keep a happiness journal in which you write down only the things that make you happy.

23. Set SMART goals and then create a paint-by-numbers plan to achieve them.

24. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about things that make you happy.

25. Find your passion.

26. Savor the little things.

27. Schedule short, frequent vacations; studies show that the anticipation leading up to the time off is one of the best parts about taking a vacation.

28. Engage in humility; you can only carry the burden of pride and of having a huge ego for so long before you crack under the pressure of upholding your incredible significance.

29. Dr. Timothy Sharp recommends that you set aside “worry time”. There may be an issue that is bothering you and that you need to sit down and think through. Schedule some time in which you’re going to think about the issue and then put it out of your mind until then.

30. Accept the things you cannot change.

31. Keep in mind that we tend to overestimate how likely it is that something bad will happen. We also tend to overestimate how bad things will be if something negative does happen.

32. Talk to yourself in the way in which you would talk to someone you really care about and respect.

33. Try something new.

34. Identify your greatest strengths, and then try to use these strengths in new ways.

35. Keep an “unhappiness log” so that you can keep track of things such as the following:

• Are there specific things or people that trigger emotions in you that are not conducive to happiness?
• Is there someone in particular who is constantly making you angry?
• Are there certain situations in which you become irritable and can easily become upset? For example, if you’re hungry or haven’t had enough sleep.
• Is there a particular situation that creates anxiety or frustration in your life?

The aim of keeping an “unhappiness log” is to identify specific things that trigger anger, frustation, anxiety, and so on in you so that you can plan on how to deal with these situations before they happen.

36. Give in to temptation once in a while: eat that chocolate sundae (with whipped cream, nuts, and a cherry on top), splurge on a day at the spa, or read the mystery novel instead of answering the 100th email.

37. Although it is important to “know thyself”—as Socrates advised—don’t take self-introspection to the level of navel-gazing. That’s just not conducive to happiness. It’s just not.

38. In the Mahabharata– one of the two major Sanskrit epics of ancient India –there is a passage which says “That person who lives in their own home, eats and lives simply and has no debt to anyone; they are truly happy in this world”. Simplify!

39. Think of the saying: “It’s not where you stand but the direction in which you face.” If things aren’t going well for you, just think of where you would like to be and start taking baby steps to move in that direction.

40. Shift from a victim to a creator mentality.

41. Release negative feelings and emotions and allow the happiness that lies underneath those feelings to emerge.

42. As Charles Schulz would say, “Happiness is a side dish of French fries” and “Happiness is a warm puppy.”

01.慢慢的才知道,太在乎别人了往往会伤害自己­

02.慢慢的才知道,对自己好的人会随着时间的流逝

越来越少,­

03.慢慢的才知道,一个人要自己对自己好,因为真正关心你的人很少,有了事他们也不一定会在你身边。所以要自己照顾自己­

04.慢慢的才知道,真心对一个人好不一定有回报,而你忽略的人往往有可能是最重视你的,­

05.慢慢的才知道,很多东西是可遇而不可求的,很多东西只能拥有一次,­

06.慢慢的才知道,恋爱不一定是真心的, 有可能是利益关系,有可能是攀比心理,­

07.慢慢的才知道,不要和别人争论什么,因为那是没有结果的,无论谁对谁错,­

08.慢慢的才知道,很多时候自己遇到不开心事,千万不要渴望别人同情,大多数人会采取冷漠回敬的。那样会更让人家看不起,­

09.慢慢的才知道,有很多东西是不属于你的,你使劲强求会遭天遣的,­

10.慢慢的才知道,未必做每件事情都有意义,可是做的每件事情都觉得是一件回忆!­

11.慢慢的才知道,人的性格可以差异到如此之大,­

12.慢慢的才知道,许多曾经的人会变的让你认不出,但请留住回忆。­

13.慢慢的才知道,从现在开始应该把握每一个你能把握的人,放弃你留不住的人,不要因为想留住个别人而失去一群人。­

14.慢慢的才知道,自己一定在乎自己的自尊,但你的自尊在别人眼里根本不算什么,­

15.慢慢的才知道,不要心情不好的时候对周围人发脾气,渴望他们谅解你,人家不是你的父母,现在你可以明白父母对自己多么重要,­

16.慢慢的才知道,即便有人对情感看的无所谓,你一定要坚信,人之间的感情, 有可能会令所有东西都无法超越的,但记住,只是有可能,­

17.慢慢的才知道,原来现实如此的无奈。­

18.慢慢的才知道,会遇到许多自己看不惯的人或事,但那与你无关,别人爱咋整随他便,别生不该生的气,不值,­

20.慢慢的才知道,两个天天在一起的人不一定是朋友,有可能什么都不是,­

21.慢慢的才知道,会遇到很多诱惑,无论别人怎么样,你是你,你有你的原则和底限,­

22.慢慢的才知道,会有人很讨厌你或者和你过不去,但是他爱怎么样就怎么样,我们要大度,不和小人计较,但前提是你正确,­

23.慢慢的才知道,很多人无法理解男女之间的朋友关系,在一起就一定是恋人,不是恋人就一定不能在一起,­

24.慢慢的才知道,学习要刻苦,因为凭聪明就能应付考试科目的人是凤毛翎角,­

25.慢慢的才知道,原来时间一空闲下来是那么无聊,丝毫没有中学的充实的感觉,­

26.慢慢的才知道,手机是别人有事找你的时候用的,并不是为了交流感情的­

27.慢慢的才知道,可以不把所有人当朋友,但千万不能把一个人当敌人,至少可以当同学,­

28.慢慢的才知道,玩你能玩的起的,玩不起的千万别玩,不然会输了什么都没有的,­

29.慢慢的才知道,快乐常常来自回忆,而痛苦常常来自于回忆与现实的差距,­

30.慢慢的才知道,那些嘻哈打闹只是消遣而已,而过往的抽烟打架更是无知.­

31.慢慢的才知道,有很多人的想法与做法你无法理解,或是根本不知道他在想什么,千万别在那揣摩或者瞎猜,那样会让自己累,既然人家要保持神秘感那就让人家保持去啊,自己又不是占卜师,­

32.慢慢的才知道,不要把自己想的有多高,没有绝对性的胜利,也没有绝对性的失败­

33,慢慢的才知道,生活是有很多不公平的, 你一定要正视,相信实力和群众的眼睛,­

34.慢慢的才知道,兄弟情义有时候未必是想像的那么美好, 只有自己真心付出,才有可能得到别人的真心对待.­

35.慢慢的才知道,有的人不断的算计,到头还来是会输的很惨,所以应当保持一个平和的心!­

36.慢慢的才知道,有的事情不是自己所愿意的,但是有的事情必须得去完成,那也是对自己的一段特训.­

37,慢慢的才知道,原来两个人在一起或真或假,相处的时间还是占据着重要成份.­

38.慢慢的才知道,现实根想法的差距,必须要随机应变,跟上生活的步伐!­

39.慢慢的才知道,自己也在慢慢长大,不在是小孩子了,适应着每一件事的成长.­

40慢慢的才知道，给人留一线日后好相见的真正意义,没有永远的敌人只有永远的朋友,凡事不要做的太绝,事情的结局都是用嘴巴说出来的.­

41.慢慢的才知道,不管玩的多好的朋友都有可能失去,但是我们还是要乐观面对,若是真的把他(她)当作自己的朋友就应该为他(她)祝福.遥望!只是做自己所做的.­

42慢慢的才知道,自己在慢慢接受社会了,所以也要慢慢学会适应­

Learn ~~

一：沉穩

（1）不要隨便顯露你的情緒。
（2）不要逢人就訴說你的困難和遭遇。
（3）在徵詢別人的意見之前，自己先思考，但不要先講。
（4）不要一有機會就嘮叨你的不滿。
（5）重要的決定儘量有別人商量，最好隔一天再發佈。
（6）講話不要有任何的慌張，走路也是。

二：細心

（1）對身邊發生的事情，常思考它們的因果關係。
（2）對做不到位的執行問題，要發掘它們的根本癥結。
（3）對習以為常的做事方法，要有改進或優化的建議。
（4）做什麼事情都要養成有條不紊和井然有序的習慣。
（5）經常去找幾個別人看不出來的毛病或弊端。
（6）自己要隨時隨地對有所不足的地方補位。

三：膽識

（1）不要常用缺乏自信的詞句
（2）不要常常反悔，輕易推翻已經決定的事。
（3）在眾人爭執不休時，不要沒有主見。
（4）整體氛圍低落時，你要樂觀、陽光。
（5）做任何事情都要用心，因為有人在看著你。
（6）事情不順的時候，歇口氣，重新尋找突破口，就結束也要乾淨俐落。

四：大度

（1）不要刻意把有可能是夥伴的人變成對手。
（2）對別人的小過失、小錯誤不要斤斤計較。
（3）在金錢上要大方，學習三施（財施、法施、無畏施）
（4）不要有權力的傲慢和知識的偏見。
（5）任何成果和成就都應和別人分享。
（6）必須有人犧牲或奉獻的時候，自己走在前面。

五：誠信

（1）做不到的事情不要說，說了就努力做到。
（2）虛的口號或標語不要常掛嘴上。
（3）針對客戶提出的“不誠信”問題，拿出改善的方法。
（4）停止一切“不道德”的手段。
（5）耍弄小聰明，要不得！
（6）計算一下產品或服務的誠信代價，那就是品牌成本。

六：擔當

（1）檢討任何過失的時候，先從自身或自己人開始反省。
（2）事項結束後，先審查過錯，再列述功勞。
（3）認錯從上級開始，表功從下級啟動
（4）著手一個計畫，先將權責界定清楚，而且分配得當。
（5）對“怕事”的人或組織要挑明瞭說。
（6）因為勇於承擔責任所造成的損失，公司應該承擔